We have been talking about relationships at our house a great deal lately. When one of my brothers-in-law married into my family he said his father told him that marriage was about "sacrifice and compromise". He meant it as a joke but it is not a joke. That's exactly what it is about.
My husband and I were told that we would not be able to have children. At the age of 36, I was told that we had "unexplained infertility" and would never naturally conceive. I did not want to conceive any other way and after almost 6 years and several miscarriages, my eldest daughter was born. She was the answer to prayer. When she was 2, she decided she must have a baby sister and although I explained to her that it would be impossible, she prayed every night and 2 years later and a particularly delicious Indian food meal in honour of my birthday, she had a baby sister whom she named Maya.
My husband and I decided that he would work very hard and I would be home to care for our children. We eat much ground meat, my car is 17 years old, we rarely take big vacations, my husband works night and day and most everything we have has been previously owned. We don't mind. It works for us and I can be available to my children when they need me.
My younger daughter recently told me that she is not going to get married because she doesn't want to have to cook food for everyone everyday. At this time in her life (she is only 9), she has decided that she will not compromise her freedom for daily food preparation. We'll see!
We all make sacrifices and compromises based on what we want and need in our lives. My kids need two parents, a solid roof over their heads, at least 3 meals a day and someone at the other end of the line when they call....I'm here!
My husband and I were told that we would not be able to have children. At the age of 36, I was told that we had "unexplained infertility" and would never naturally conceive. I did not want to conceive any other way and after almost 6 years and several miscarriages, my eldest daughter was born. She was the answer to prayer. When she was 2, she decided she must have a baby sister and although I explained to her that it would be impossible, she prayed every night and 2 years later and a particularly delicious Indian food meal in honour of my birthday, she had a baby sister whom she named Maya.
My husband and I decided that he would work very hard and I would be home to care for our children. We eat much ground meat, my car is 17 years old, we rarely take big vacations, my husband works night and day and most everything we have has been previously owned. We don't mind. It works for us and I can be available to my children when they need me.
My younger daughter recently told me that she is not going to get married because she doesn't want to have to cook food for everyone everyday. At this time in her life (she is only 9), she has decided that she will not compromise her freedom for daily food preparation. We'll see!
We all make sacrifices and compromises based on what we want and need in our lives. My kids need two parents, a solid roof over their heads, at least 3 meals a day and someone at the other end of the line when they call....I'm here!
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